Create a Standard of Kindness

Five Ways to Inspire Kindness in Your Classroom

Kindness is a powerful force that can radically transform the world.  A smile can bridge connection. Holding the door open can make someone feel noticed. A kind message can show someone that they're cared for.


Kindness is basically magic as each kind act inspires and generates more kindness. Despite its magical qualities, kindness seems to be increasingly underrated and rare to find. Which means we have our work cut out for us. 


Creating a standard of kindness in your classroom is a goal we all share. And like most good things, building a culture of kindness takes work! But the payout is sooooo worth it! Happy, thriving students who go out and positively influence the world. Yeah, that's definitely worth the time and energy. 

5 Ways to Create a Standard of Kindness

Here are five things you can do to establish a standard of kindness and create a positive classroom culture:

1) Model Kindness

First and foremost, if you want students to be kind, you have to be kind. Choose to model the kindness you want to see in your students.


Examples: Speak kind words, ask students about their lives, experience empathy, be thoughtful, say please and thank you

2) Praise Kindness

Let's be real, kids like attention (I mean, don't we all). They want to be noticed. So just like you'd acknowledge quality academic work, intentionally praise kindness.


Examples: Highlight the act of kindness of the week, let students give shout-outs to other students' kind deeds, create a kindness bulletin board to showcase kind acts


3) Create Kindness Opportunities 

For some students, going out of their way to be kind isn't really on their radar. So it's essential to create opportunities for students to be kind.


Examples: Give students a kindness challenge (like to say hello to everyone they pass in the hallway), assign a kind act as homework (like to write a thank you letter), ask for volunteers to help out around the classroom or to tutor their peers

4) Teach Kindness

Sadly, kindness isn't always the norm, and some students don't see enough kindness in their lives. This means we may have to teach what it means to be kind.


Example: Share specific examples of what kindness looks like through books (Wonder), YouTube clips, and other media sources.

5) Expect Kindness

Finally, if you want to create a standard of kindness, kindness needs to be the expectation. This means, don't settle for anything less than kind behavior.


I'm not recommending that you shame or belittle unkind acts. Instead, I suggest approaching unkind moments with a restorative and empathy-driven mindset. Help students understand how unkind actions make someone feel. Then, help students identify kinder options for the future.

Classroom Posters to help create a standard of kindness

Just in case you missed it last week, don't forget to download your free classroom posters (see below) about how to be a good friend. The 12 highlighted social habits are drenched in kindness. By integrating these social habits into their lives, students begin to live with a standard of kindness!

Free Classroom Posters - How to be A Good Friend. Use these posters in your classroom to promote being a good friend. Each poster features a social habits connected to being a good friend. These free classroom posters are perfect for any middle school classroom across the curriculum. Head over to Project School Wellness to download and print your posters.

Next Time...

If you're in the business of setting a standard of kindness in your classroom, be sure to come back next week. I'll be sharing 100 kind things middle schoolers can to do!

Janelle Kay founder of Project School Wellness. Project School Wellness is the #1 resource for middle school health teachers. Project School Wellness has got health teachers covered with insightful blogs, detailed lesson plans, and engaging free resources!

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Hello. I'm  Janelle!

A middle school health teacher turned curriculum developer (and #WAHM). I'm on a mission to share the easiest-to-teach, most impactful health lesson plans on the Internet. Because your time and energy is better spent on teaching and connecting, not on planning and prep.


  1. Cheryl on July 20, 2019 at 11:27 pm

    I LOVE THIS! Thanks for your excellent materials. Keep on creating more resources for classroom use.

  2. Latoya Rouse on February 11, 2020 at 5:48 pm

    I love this. Very helpful. I am guidance counsellor and I will be sharing this information with my teachers.

    • Janelle Kay on February 25, 2020 at 6:44 am

      Hey Latoya,

      Yay for promoting kindness! I hope your teachers also find it helpful.

      Have a lovely day,


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